No one really talks about what intimacy looks like in long-term relationships.
What it feels like when the spark fades so slowly you barely notice.
At the beginning, there was that pull—magnetic, effortless, consuming. You couldn't wait to get your hands on each other.
And you're not even sure when things shifted.
Maybe it was when life got full.
When work got demanding.
When kids came and your time (and your body) stopped feeling like yours.
Maybe it was when the flirting stopped.
When sex became predictable.
When what used to feel connected started feeling... automatic.
But you just know it's different now.
A difference in you.
In your relationship.
In the way you move around each other.
You've become roommates managing a household instead of lovers who also cohabitate together.
And here's the part that's hard to say out loud:
You've started to wonder if maybe this is just how it is.
If this is what mature love looks like—a quick kiss goodnight and rolling over to scroll your own feeds. Sex a couple times a month that's... fine. Not bad, just not mind-blowing.
Maybe that playful and passionate version of you—maybe she's like those late nights at the club. Something that was, but not something that's supposed to still be here.
Maybe great sex is just for the beginning. Maybe it's not actually that important.
But here's the thing:
That voice telling you to settle? That voice saying "this is just how it is"?
That's not wisdom. That's exhaustion. That's fear.
You deserve more than fine.
You're wired for more than just surviving this season—you're built for pleasure, aliveness, and deep connection.
You're wired for more than just surviving this season—you're built for pleasure, aliveness, and deep connection.
And I will show you exactly how to experience this.
The reset we all need . . .
The 90 Day Bedroom Reset is a curated, tried-and-true blend of neuroscience, embodiment techniques, and practical coaching.
It's tailored for real women, with real lives, seeking real results.
We get to the root of what is holding you back from engaging with pleasure and living as a turned-on woman.
Where you will learn the exact process needed to:
- Experience turn-on and satisfaction in the sheets and in your life.
- Have a fun and sustainable sex life with your partner, no matter what life throws your way.
- Communicate confidently in your relationship and feel more passionately & playfully connected.
You are wired in brain and body for exquisite pleasure, now let me show you exactly how to experience it.
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Before the Better Sex Program (now 90 Bedroom Reset), I felt like I had a problem. I felt something was broken because I didn't feel much whilst having sex. I stayed in my head thinking about something else and felt tons of shame for not being "hot or turned on enough."
In the group, I loved having a safe space to share and see that I am not alone in feeling this. Others experiences and celebration helped me have so many more “'ah has."
I stopped shaming myself for not wanting sex often or not feeling a lot. I feel more present with myself and more compassionate. I now know I can turn myself on on demand, which is so fun, I feel a more deep connection with my partner during sex. I slow down and take more time for it. I feel more sexual and turned on on a daily basis and let go of any obligation... which funny enough lead me to wanting more of it just naturally.
You teach that we can have an amazing sex life whenever. And now the main takeaway is that I can be turned on whenever I want. I have the tools to do it, and it’s not hard at all. It keeps getting better! This is amazing. And it’s my new me.
-Fanny, Better Sex Graduate
Listen to her story HERE.
Yes, it's true, you CAN actually WANT sex and want it consistently.
AND sex itself can be so much better.
Your body was built to deliver ecstatic pleasure.
Your brain is capable of creating desire.
And in the 90 Day Bedroom Reset you will learn the exact process and skills to make it happen.
What I hear from women just like you is...
(FYI most women experience a few of these)
✗ You want to want sex again — but at the end of the day you're just too tired, too worn out, and simply not interested
✗ You avoid physical contact because you're not sure if you want it to lead somewhere — tensing up during a kiss, dodging touch on the couch, worried that any affection will give him the "wrong idea" when you don't have anything left to give
✗ During sex, your mind wanders — to your to-do list, how long it's taking, what your body looks like. You aren't actually connected to your pleasure or your partner
✗ You say yes and go along when your partner initiates — not always, but often, because it's easier than dealing with the aftermath - his disappointment, your guilt, his rejection or even the cold-shoulder.
✗ You never initiate — you want your partner to understand what turns you on, to know how to woo you. Plus you just aren't the one to pursue it.
✗ You feel resentful — you're carrying the mental load, managing everything at home, and now sex feels like one more thing on your list of responsibilities
✗ Your partner wants to connect through sex, but how could you? — you don't even feel emotionally connected. You're not sure they actually care about what's going on with you beyond the physical
✗ Sex is "fine" but you know it could be so much better — from meh to good, there's always MORE, but you're not sure how to get there
✗ You don't feel sexy — knit-picking and critcizing your body is something you wish would stay in the past, yet when it comes to feeling sexy you can't help slipping into old patterns of judgement. And when you don't feel sexy - your desire isn't their either.
✗ You don't feel confident speaking up — asking for what you want feels awkward, vulnerable, or unclear because honestly, you're not even sure what you want anymore
✗ Arousal and orgasm take forever, if it even happens — whether from hormones, no attraction, or pain, all you know is this isn't fun & doesn't feel great
✗ You grew up with shame around sex and self-pleasure — and even though you know better now intellectually, that uneasy feeling still lingers in your body
✗ You feel dried up and drained — like there's nothing left to give, and the idea of mustering up desire feels impossibl
If this is you, I completely understand
It's easy to let everything else take precedence over what you really want—to FEEL better, more free, more alive.
Especially when sex doesn't fill you up or intimacy doesn't seem available (for whatever reason).
When it feels like another thing you aren't getting to, instead of something that GIVES you energy.
You know how good it can feel when you have that chemistry—you've been there before, or at least caught glimpses of it.
But things have shifted and you're not quite sure how to get it back.
I have been where you are — the body shame, the mixed messages, the disconnect, reconciling past traumas, health issues, demands of motherhood and simply not wanting it. I have learned how to have sex that is beyond satisfying and how to infiltrate pleasure and fun and deep compassion into my everyday existence . . . and have helped hundreds of women just like you achieve the same.
I deeply understand the process it takes to become the woman who is turned on, who follows through and who creates orgasmic results for herself. I get YOU.
The reason your sex life feels lackluster and intimacy feels dull, isn't because you're broken or because you've been doing it wrong.
You've simply been socialized in a culture where female pleasure is unimportant and shamed
Women have been taught to:
- Criticize and reject our bodies and sexuality
- Aim to please others first
- Tamp down our desires and keep them in the confines of what's "acceptable"
- Navigate all the "shoulds" and "should nots"
- Live with the hustle mentality—pleasure only comes AFTER everything else is done, the goals are reached, everyone is taken care of
The result?
Your nervous system is stuck in overdrive. Your brain doesn't turn off. You're constantly scanning for the next thing that needs doing, the next fire to put out.
You're disconnected from your body—living in your head, managing, organizing, producing.
And when you're in that state? When you're in survival mode?
Your body literally shuts down the pathways to desire, pleasure, and connection.
You're constantly in a simmer of stress, unable to connect to your body in a joyous and pleasurable way. Your brain is wired to prioritize threat and task over turn-on and sensation.
And that person you chose to be with? The one you love?
I know it feels backwards, but when you're in this state, it's completely normal to lash out at them, to blame them, to even see them as a threat. When really what you're craving deep down is to be seen and loved—but you inadvertently create add to the chasm between you.
And you can't think your way out of this.
You can't "just relax." You can't technique your way back to desire with a new position or a weekend getaway.
And unfortunately, the way couples therapy usually goes, it takes eons to get to the root. Instead it feels like you're both getting a long list of all the things you're doing wrong and what you need to fix. A list of demands to make it better.
But true intimacy, deep connection, and genuine desire? That's not something you just do.
It's not about meeting each other's needs because they were listed off in a therapy session.
It's about becoming a woman who is turned-on, alive, and connected to herself first.
When you show up regulated, embodied, and clear about what you actually want—that's when real collaboration becomes possible.
That's what this program is about.
Rewiring your brain, regulating your nervous system, and reconnecting to your body—so you can become the turned-on woman who creates the intimacy and desire you're craving.
What You Get When You The 90 Day Bedroom Reset
LIVE Weekly Group Coaching
- Neuroscience and somatic-backed coaching for personalized support
- Conceptual teaching and guided practices
- Q&A, structured conversation and real-time problem-solving
- (the program is structured so that if the only thing you do is come to the live class and integrate what you learn, you will still get results)
Individualized Sex-essments / Ask A Coach
A unique and effective system to look at all the factors getting in the way of you having the BEST sex of your life + anonymous forms to fill out to get personalized and direct feedback on HOW you can improve on the sex you are (or aren’t) having.
The Bedroom Reset Course
- Step-by-step video lessons organized by the 4 - Step Turned on Woman Method
- Lifetime access to revisit anytime
Guided Practices & Meditations
Library of Audio-Guided Practices To:
- Prime your body for pleasure
- Discover what touch feels good
- Reapattern the neural connections in your brain for more pleasure
- Process emotions through the body
- Regulate your nervous system
- Open your heart to more love
- Increase attraction for your partner
- Increase vulva sensitivity and arousal
- Expand orgasmic capacity
The impact of doing this work in community is hard to put into words, other than truly TRANSFORMING.
You will be seen, you won’t feel alone, you will share in a safe and supportive space.
I kind of thought you were full of shit. I heard you saying that this could be a thing. Like the more pleasure in your life and the better sex got then it would change everything.
And now I see it's true -- my entire self-concept has changed. What felt impossible not that long ago feels so doable. I have created so much beyond my pleasure.
-Better Sex Graduate
This work has changed everything! Learning how to speak to myself and to prioritize myself has changed everything in my life from my marriage to my sex life to my career. My experience as a human has improved & so have all of the results in my life.
-Whitney, Better Sex Graduate
Listen to her story HERE.
Danielle said it but I didn't get it until now... pleasure is really for me.
And in feeling this and valuing it, our intimate relationship is soooo much better.
10 years of sex and it just gets better and better.
-Elizabeth, Better Sex Graduate
Listen to her story HERE.
"I create desire - I'm in charge of it!"
I was always stuck in my head. Feeling like I was doing it wrong. Blaming my husband. Frustrated that I didn't have the "desire" I once had. I wanted to to want sex. I didn't want it to feel like a chore anymore.
Now?? I create desire - I'm in charge of it! Not judging the distracting thoughts that pop up when being intimate - seeing the thought and releasing it. Getting out of my head more. Choosing things for me. Following my own pleasure. Taking ownership over my body and desire - I see myself simply thinking about pleasure (not just sexual, but generally) and smiling more. Making choices that are fun and relaxing, just because.
This isn't just about sex. It's about never looking to someone else to create desire and pleasure in your life. It is about stepping into a more powerful version of yourself who is unashamed of what she wants.
It was a true pleasure learning from Danielle and watching her coach. I realized quickly how deeply ingrained some of my misaligned thoughts were - so much so, that I couldn't even see the judgement in them. This was a freeing process!
-Rebecca, Better Sex Graduate
Listen to her story HERE.
Ready to be part of a community of women where you feel safe, supported, and celebrated?
JOIN THEM NOW
Every woman is wired for pleasure.
Every woman can create more desire.
Yes, even YOU.
And this program will help you develop the skills needed to tap into that pleasure & desire.
In this program you will . . .
- Be part of an intimate community full of women learning to move past societal messages and into a fuller expression of themselves where they integrate their sexuality
- Know how to communicate about sex confidently on your terms
- Experience more passion with yourself and your partner - and it only gets better
- Truly love yourself, and be on our your side
- Forever know how to prioritize pleasure in your life and feel the direct benefits of that — more energy, more resilience, more presence, less stress and more overall joy in life
- Become a turned on woman who feels confident and vibrant in her skin
- Know exactly how to create desire and pleasure in your body for the rest of your life
- Desire sex and learn how to maintain that desire
- Prevent sexual slumps and know exactly how to get yourself out of one if needed
Oh, and have the hottest sex of your life!
The investment for lifetime access is: $2,497
Enrollment for the next cohort is open 10/22
Group begins 11/5
"Best money I've spent this year. Best gift to myself."
I came for the sex but left as a more fulfilled woman in every aspect of my life. Danielle's unique process (that works!) takes you on a journey of evolving and a deepening of the human experience. It was a journey of what it means to be a woman in today’s world. This is feminism at its finest.
The group setting was so empowering. Through hearing others women’s stories of their struggles with sex in their marriages, or in a relationship or not partnered at all, to hearing their victories it allowed me to release a lot of shame around being in a nearly sexless marriage. And to release a lot of shame around talking and thinking about sex which was sooooo liberating.
Danielle is the perfect guide for this journey. She’s done the work herself. And her compassion and deep love for women and humanity are magnetic. She modeled a self-compassion that was beautiful to witness. And taught us how to cultivate our own self compassion, which is directly related to how much sex you have it turns out! As a high achieving woman this was some of the most powerful work we did. And....
I am happy to report that through Danielle's process I was able to go from having sex once every 2 or 3 months to once a week. Boom! I learned tools for how to leave the stresses of my business behind and make pleasure a priority.
Hire Danielle. It was the best money I’ve spent this year and was the best gift to myself.
-Better Sex Graduate
"Sex doesn't feel like work anymore."
During the years my husband was in med school we both put our sexual pleasure on the back burner. When med school was over we realized things needed to change but weirdly we didn't know how to do that. I had put up barriers to sex that I didn't even know I had. I wanted to ignite more sexual desire to create a more vibrant sex life with my husband.
Now?! Sex doesn't feel like work anymore!! I'm allowing myself to accept every part of me and that opens the door to experiencing so much more pleasure!
I'm making my personal pleasure more of a priority. I'm allowing myself to be turned on during the day without shame or trying the stop it. I'm spending more time in my body instead of my head. I'm not apologizing for my wants in bed anymore. I'm creating a healthier dialogue regarding my body image as well, which allows me to love myself and accept the love from my husband.
If you want more for yourself do yourself a favor and sign up. I've tried other programs and courses looking for the changes I found here.
-Amanda, Better Sex Graduate
Still on the fence?
Share your concerns or questions by emailing team@daniellesavory.com or click the phone to set up free consultation with Danielle to discuss if this is the best fit for you!
Frequently Asked Questions
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