Ep. 82: Sexual Standards Are Killing Your Pleasure

When I say “mind-blowing sex”, what images come to mind for you? For most women, there’s an immediate image that pops in our heads that we’ve been fed through the media about what incredible sex should look like. This image in our minds forms how we think it looks, and how it feels, to be turned on and pleasured. What if I told you that this image of mind-blowing sex is actually keeping you from having that kind of sex that you’re picturing? In this episode, I talk about these sex standards, and how to let go of them so that you can create your own image of pleasurable sex, and you can start having the sex of your dreams. 

Topics in this episode

• Is there a right way to have sex?
• How this affects the way we’re thinking about our sexual partners
• The standards you’re holding yourself against and how you’re measuring the success of your sex
• Confirmation bias - the brain believes something, and it’s going to work to find evidence of that belief
• Creating pleasure requires curiosity
• The difference between sex goals and goals in other areas of your life

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope that with this episode, you’re able to find more pleasure in your body, the obstacles that are holding you back from experiencing delicious, amazing sex. Pleasure is possible with your mind, and when we start to break down these standards, we all win.