Ep. 83: Self-Pleasure - aka Masturbation Re-Imagined

I think it’s time we dedicate an episode to talking about one of my favorite topics, self-pleasure! When it comes to the thought of self-pleasure, shame tends to be the predominant feeling, and it comes from the ways in which we’ve been socialized and taught about enjoying our bodies. In this episode, I get into some of the specific beliefs that hinder us from being able to explore and enjoy our bodies, and then how to shift those beliefs. Once we’re able to create that shift, it opens up the possibility of what sex and pleasure could look like for us, and then we’re able to apply that to our sex lives in our partnered experiences! I also share some of the ways in which it could negatively impact your sex life, and some ways to get started.

This is a topic that comes up with my one-on-one coaching clients, as well as with the women in my group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days. I am currently taking applications for the next group session, which starts in January. 

Topics in this episode:

• Understanding why you’re associating this practice with shame.
• The foundational belief that our bodies aren’t our own
• Self-pleasure vs masturbate
• Self-pleasure is an opportunity for you to be able to connect with yourself and your body in a caring way
• The goal of self-pleasure
• How it feels to receive your own love and touch
• How self-pleasure can help and how it can take away from your sex life
• Giving yourself permission to explore

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you. I hope that it helps you up your self-pleasure game, no matter where it’s at. This is one of the most delicious and amazing self-care practices that creates connection with our bodies. Give yourself permission to bring this in as a regular part of your practice and have fun!