Ep. 66: Q&A: Pleasure During Hard Times, Libido and Anxiety w/ O's

I want to start by discussing the current events that are taking place in response to Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd, and the thousands of other Black lives that have been unjustly taken. It has been very clear to me why this movement of Black Lives Matter is so important. With what is going on right now, I want to start by saying to my Black friends, listeners, and colleagues; I love you. I see you. And I fully stand with you, today and every day. 

Being a white woman in this country and really listening to the Black voices close to me, in my local community and beyond has been particularly important recently. I am learning and unpacking, and I want to continue to learn and be a part of the conversation and take action that I can take. 

In this episode, I share with you a Q&A, something I’ve never done before. The topics I cover in this episode are how to feel pleasure when there is so much overwhelm and deep hurt, how to push through anxiety in order to fully orgasm, and increasing libido.

Question 1: How is it possible to feel pleasure when there is so much anger, overwhelm, and deep hurt? 

• Learning how to be compassionate to yourself for your emotions
• Give yourself permission to feel
• Getting through the trauma in our bodies
• Give yourself permission to feel pleasure, along with the emotional pain you’re experiencing
• Moments of pleasure are soothing and will help you get through the hard times

Question 2: How do you push through anxiety to fully orgasm?

• We’re not trying to push through anything
• When you’re not having sex, ask yourself, where is this anxiety coming from?
• What are you afraid of experiencing?
• If you don’t know where the anxiety is coming from, it makes it difficult to do anything about it
• How to identify where the anxiety is coming from

Question 3: How do you increase libido?

• What libido means
• Ask yourself, how can I want sex more?
• Spontaneous vs responsive desire
• Spend time finding out what it is that turns you on, and spend time doing that thing
• Minimizing your turn offs

It has been my pleasure, as always, to share these tools, insights, and mindset shifts that can really help you become a more turned on woman and help you lean more into your pleasure. Not only are you deserving of pleasure, but it is also available to you and it can help you in all areas of your life.