Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I get it, I too have experience lots of tired nights when sex is the last thing my mind says I want. But in this episode I want to offer you a very radical perspective . . . what if being tired is the exact reason we need to be having MORE sex? What if it is actually the antidote to having more energy?
Well my friends, this isn’t just a theory - when we look at how orgasms and sensual pleasure support the body and the brain you will quickly see how orgasmic pleasure might be the ‘caffeine’ boost we all need, but even more nourishing because it helps create actual rest and ease in the body. Pls when you learn how to put pleasure at the top of your list, instead of the bottom,...
I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t that good” and without hesitation I answered . . . Because we are tired. And this was in March 1, 2020 - before the pandemic hit - before we had experienced the level of fatigue most of us our experiencing now.
But despite the fact that we have every reason in the world to BE tired, it doesn’t mean our desire and sexual should suffer because of it. In this two part podcast on tiredness and fatigue we explore a simple mindset shift and speaking tip to help you begin to break out of the cycle of fatigue.
Women. Life. Freedom - What does that mean to you? Today we talk to Mahsa Darabi, Iranian immigrant, mother, business owner, inspirational powerhouse and one of my favorite humans in the whole world. Mahsa speaks candidly about what it has been like living as an Iranian-American woman watching the protests happening in Iran as women fight for their rights against a violent regime.
We discuss the intersection of our own internal work around pleasure and sexuality and how that relates to the fight for women’s liberation globally.
Don’t miss this important conversation about the importance of creating powerful internal change and the impact that has on our community, future generations and women’s sovereignty at large.
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YOU already have self-awareness. You already are conscious of many of the thoughts that are getting in the way of you having more pleasure, you notice how you feel in your body when it is a “yes” or a “no”, you understand what your current sex life is like and where you ware wanting it to go. But did you know there is so much more to self-awareness? That there are multiple layers of our awareness and when we unlock each layer the sex just keeps getting better and better? In this episode we talk about what you might be missing in your self-awareness journey and exactly what to watch out for so that you don’t get stuck in your pursuit for more pleasure.
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Have you wanted to improve your sex life and just noticed that you honestly don’t have that much desire FOR it? So you get stuck, like how am I actually supposed to make this better if I can’t even get in the mood to start with? Wanting sex, not feeling tired for it or not being in the mood seem to be the main hindrances for most women in having a more pleasurable sex life. Like I want to really want it, but how? Don’t worry, I got you. Desire is one of the most fascinating topics for me and one I absolutely LOVE studying both scientifically and with my clients and find new ways to think about it and approach it. You might also be wondering if developing more desire is even worth it and spoiler alert, not only is it a skill you will look forward to developing, but it is wildly important for you well-being and beyond.
Wanting to do something to change your sex life is an AMAZING first step, but often times it isn’t enough to actually get us taking the action to shake things up. Desire is part of the equation, but our desire is often times enough to overcome some of the unconscious fears and doubts that we ALL have. In this episode I share some real client stories as well as some of my deeply personal fears I had about improving my sex life. You will find actual practices to do at home at the end of this less to hope you lean more into that desire. I hope this is the exact thing you need to hear to create more safety for yourself and create the fun and playful sex life you want.
Are you afraid you are taking to long to get aroused and orgasm? Listen, if so, you are so not alone. This is one of the most common worries among women when it comes to their sexual ‘performance’ is how long things are taking and how to move things along. In this episode you will learn if you are in fact taking too long and if so how to move things along to the orgasmic outcome you are hoping for.
Have you ever decided you really want to have something in your life or have your life look differently than it does right now, but then wonder why it doesn’t happen the way you imagined? Well this episode is for you - where I will explain to you the concept of being proactive in creating what you want and specifically why it is crucial we learn how to be proactive with our pleasure if we want to lead a sexually satisfied and pleasured life.
Hey have you ever had a great time, like legit good sex, but then afterwards you started second-guess it? You start being judgey about what went down and ruin the celebratory sex you had because all the sudden your brain convinces you that it wasn’t actually that good for x, y or z reasons?? Kind of like the walk of shame. It felt good, your body loved it and YET your brain wants to de-legitimize your pleasure because perhaps it wasn’t what you have unconsciously decided is ‘aspirational’ sex. Listen to this episode to see how you may be poo-pooing on your pleasure and inadvertently keeping yourself from the mind-blowing sex you want.
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It is easy to imagine yourself basking in juicy sensual pleasure when you have the time, the space and the connection. But it is a whole other thing when that is NOT what you are currently experiencing. To really experience the pleasure you want isn’t about waiting until the star are aligned, but instead learning HOW to be the kind of woman who experiences being turned on and pleasured - right now - as things are - in your everyday life. And this episode will share with the first (and crucial) mindset shift that will catalyze you taking more sexy action and experiencing more pleasure.
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