It's My Pleasure Podcast

When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that men have a higher sex drive than women. This belief can be getting in the way of your pleasure, and possibly have you think that something within you is broken. In this episode, I dive into where this belief comes from, how it is affecting your sexuality, and how to overcome this belief and be able to tap into your pleasure. 

Listen to this episode and allow yourself to bring some curiosity to these belief systems that you might not have taken a look at when it comes to your sex drive and men’s sex drives. What have you made that mean about your partner? What have you made that mean about you? How is this getting in the way of your pleasure? It is so important to take a pause to look at because these are the things that are going to block you from feeling safe, empowered, and...

Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you realize there’s so much more that goes into having pleasurable experiences and mindblowing sex. In this episode, I explain the importance of having clitoral curiosity and how that can have such a big impact on getting what you want with your sexuality. 

I also want to remind you guys that I’m doing an unbelievable retreat with one of my coaching colleagues Lindsey _______. We are doing a retreat in Palm Springs called the Pleasure and Profit Planning Retreat. We’ll be going in-depth to talking about what it takes to truly create a profitable business, and planning for a super pleasured and profitable 2020. To sign up and find more information go to http://daniellesavory.com/pleasureprofit-retreat. 

Topics in this episode: 

• Defining...

Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, the foundation. Sometimes you have to look into what is going into the foundation of before you can even start the inquiry. When we’re beginning with the inquiry, there has to be a level of comfort with your sexuality. So in this episode, I discuss how to start with the foundation of pleasure, and how to determine what you want. 

In day two of the masterclass, we covered the investigatoin, and day three was all about the conversation. Each session also comes with a set of resources that I provide to help guide you through to the end goal. To see all three trainings and get access to these resources, go to daniellesavory.com/training.

Topics in this episode:

• How pleasure impacts so many aspects of our lives
• Redefining what it means to be selfish, versus selfless
• Why we...

In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she got interested in being a life coach, and through that coaching, she heard from many of her clients that they were having difficulties in their sex lives. Since there isn’t much sexual education and training in medical school, she found herself doing a lot of independent research, which quickly developed into her pursuing a certificate program to become a certified sex coach.

I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. Sonia about some of the most common concerns for women, the difference in sex coaching for midlife as opposed to other phases of life, and how imperative it is for women to give themselves permission.

Don’t forget, if you want help getting clarity on what it is you want in the bedroom, please go to https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining to access free training...

I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may be hard to understand the power of what’s being said. It’s powerful to hear other people’s experiences and the transformations they’ve gone through, and I want to share some of that with you. I also want to explain some key differences between sex therapy and sex coaching. Having a coach is like having a personal champion, and through these client stories, you get to see how focusing on their sex life opened up to personal growth in every aspect of their lives.

Topics in this episode

• Value of sex coaching
• The feeling of worthiness
• What it’s like being powered in your decisions
• What’s standing in the way of you getting what you want?
• How to be present, one of the hardest things
• Training your mind during sex

So far in this podcast, I’ve talked a lot about big-picture stuff, like how pleasure can change your brain for the better. And also, how to have the right structure and environment so that you can create desire and pleasure can enter. At this point, I would love to start getting more detailed on what actually comes up with some of my clients and how I coach them through it so you can start doing the same. What I really want to talk about is this idea that you have so much going on, you have so much on your plate, the predominant thought you have when it comes to sex is, “I just don’t have time for that” or “I’ve got so much to do”. What I want to show you is how to prioritize your “why” in order to make time for what you need.

Topics in this episode

• Time is just a construct
• When we feel busy, we don’t have time
• There has to be a compelling reason
• Why is it important to you? What impact will it create?
• The beneficial...

In last week’s episode, we began to talk about how self-image affects your sex life. I want to go even further this week and talk about how other people’s opinions can affect your sex life. We have a choice of whether or not we allow unkind comments other people say into our thoughts. Many of our beliefs have been learned by how we were raised, and the messages we got, and the world we live in. These beliefs can greatly influence our fears about ourselves, and especially about our sex, which keeps us from pursuing pleasure and desire.

I want to share with you that the truth is really what we choose it to be. Not caring what others think isn’t easy, but it is the most liberating thing there is. It will free you and allow you to connect more with yourself so that you can go after your pleasure and go after your sexuality.

Topics in this episode:

• You are responsible for the integrity of your thoughts
• The foundation of our “home” and how it affects your...

Today we are talking about body image, which is a hang-up for many of us. I think it is safe to say that most women have been insecure about the way they look, and it creates obstacles for us to create more sexual pleasure or empowerment. This is something I truly love working with women to overcome in order for them to have a love affair with themselves, and to own the beautiful, badass, sexy women they are. Sexy is the relationship you have with yourself, and I want to help you re-build that relationship so you can access the sex you deserve. 

Topics in this episode:

• The narrative in our minds
• The role of self-criticism before and during sex
• Would you say that to someone else? A friend? Your daughter?
• The response of your sympathetic nervous system
• You have to be the one to have amazing thoughts about you.
• Shame is the opposite of desire
• Re-building your self-image happens in stages 

Thank you for joining me on It’s My Pleasure today. As always, it’s been...

In last week’s episode, episode 30, we started going through all the topics that have been discussed thus far on the podcast. I thought it would be so fun to recap the information that’s been shared, topics that have been discussed, and conversations so that you can remind your brain of the things we’ve discussed. And by doing so, it can ignite and inspire you to go back and listen, take some deeper notes, and actually apply, implement, and integrate what I talked about in that episode so that you can see real change.

I am so ecstatic and proud of all of the topics we’ve discussed so far, and I am thrilled to bring you even more. Thank you for joining me. I hope you have found these 31 episodes helpful in tapping into your pleasure potential. If you want to take this work deeper, I would love to work with you one-on-one. I currently have a few spots available in this truly transformational journey. If you’re ready, interested, and serious about this...

In honor of today being the 30th episode, I want to focus on 30 key takeaways, one from each episode so far. It is so fun to see all of the things we’ve talked about and the topics and information that have been shared. I know how easy it is to hear something, and it goes through one ear and out the other. So I want to take the time to go through and grab each episode and get the essence from it to jog your memory and remind you some of the things we’ve talked about. This episode will be key takeaways from the first 15 episodes, and next week we will cover the other 15 episodes.