It's My Pleasure Podcast

Ep. 89: Let's Talk Vibrators

Recently, there has been a bit of "buzz" about vibrators in the community, perhaps it’s because we are in the swing of the gift-giving season. I’ve seen a lot of articles out there about sex toys and vibrators, and I realize that it’s time we talk about it here on the podcast. In this episode, I share with you why I recommend for some clients to use one, and for others to not. I also dive into some of the myths around vibrators and take a look at how they affect our mindset and the ability to access pleasure in our bodies.

And don't forget about the most incredible giveaway going on right now for a pleasure-filled box just for you! In this gift box are some of the most luxurious things to get yourself pleasured. All you have to do to be entered for this giveaway is go to Apple Podcasts and write a review and share your feedback. Take a screenshot of that review and email it to [email protected]. When you do so, you’re also going to immediately get...

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Ep. 88: Drinking & Sex

No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind of awareness and pleasure that is possible for you.

I also want to remind you about the amazing opportunity I have going in the month of December 2020. For this month, whenever you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and send it to [email protected] and you’ll receive your Sensational Sex starter kit! My team and I have put together meditations, instructional videos, and a workbook to really jump start this part of your journey.

You’ll also be entered in a giveaway for a gift box of some of my favorite...

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Ep. 87: Stop Saying NO

No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind of awareness and pleasure that is possible for you.

I also want to remind you about the amazing opportunity I have going in the month of December 2020. For this month, whenever you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and send it to [email protected] and you’ll receive your Sensational Sex starter kit! My team and I have put together meditations, instructional videos, and a workbook to really jump start this part of your journey.

You’ll also be entered in a giveaway for a gift box of some of my favorite sexy things...

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Ep. 86: The NO We Should Be Saying More

A lot of my clients have this expectation that in long-term, committed relationships, there is less pressure when it comes to sex, but oftentimes, there’s even more pressure, and it can be difficult to say no when we really should. Today I really want to talk with you more about saying no, using this word, stopping sex and when this is important for you and your pleasure, and also why it’s so damn hard to do. I’m not even going to pretend that it’s not, because it is really tricky, but it’s important to remember why we’re doing this and that it’s just one more way to keep becoming a fully turned on woman living a pleasured life.

I also want to say thank you to those who have taken the time to write a review on Apple Podcasts. If you haven’t yet, please write a review and take a screenshot and send it to [email protected] for your Sensational Sex starter kit! I’ve put together some meditations,...

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Ep. 85: Sex & Trauma: Moving Through

This episode is part 2 of what we started to talk about last week, sexual trauma. If you haven’t yet, I would encourage you to go and listen to that episode first. We truly can’t expect to have freedom as a turned-on woman in our lives when we’re weighed down by past trauma and all the emotions that come with it. My promise to you is that I will not mention any details of sexual trauma. In this episode, I share with you how to begin the work of recognizing and responding to triggers and identifying the ways in which we may making our trauma worse and adding to our suffering. It is our birthright to feel whole as pleasured women, and with these episodes, I want to help you on that journey. 

I mentioned last week that I’m doing a drawing for a sensational sex starter kit and we came up with an even better idea to put together hand-picked items for the most delicious, sexy, gift box you can imagine. These are premium products that I absolutely swear by...

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Ep. 84: Sex & Trauma: The Elephant in the Bedroom

Today we are talking about trauma, and I really encourage you to listen to this one, even though it is more of a serious and heavy topic. It is a really necessary conversation we need to have as women, especially as we continue to tap into all of our potential in so many different ways. Even if you think this may not apply to you, you may still learn something about your own body and experiences. Trauma has many forms, and it is going to affect your ability to access pleasure, and that’s why we’re here. 

Disclaimer: In this episode, I will mention abuse, sexual assault, and childhood abuse, but I will not go into any details. My intention in discussing this topic is to open up a safe, loving, and healthy dialogue so that we can all heal. I hope that this is episode will jumpstart your healing journey and will lead to more pleasure in your sex life and every part of your life. 

Topics in this episode

  • Why I haven’t talked about trauma on this podcast...
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Ep. 83: Self-Pleasure - aka Masturbation Re-Imagined

I think it’s time we dedicate an episode to talking about one of my favorite topics, self-pleasure! When it comes to the thought of self-pleasure, shame tends to be the predominant feeling, and it comes from the ways in which we’ve been socialized and taught about enjoying our bodies. In this episode, I get into some of the specific beliefs that hinder us from being able to explore and enjoy our bodies, and then how to shift those beliefs. Once we’re able to create that shift, it opens up the possibility of what sex and pleasure could look like for us, and then we’re able to apply that to our sex lives in our partnered experiences! I also share some of the ways in which it could negatively impact your sex life, and some ways to get started.

This is a topic that comes up with my one-on-one coaching clients, as well as with the women in my group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days. I am currently taking applications for the next group session, which starts in...

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Ep. 82: Sexual Standards Are Killing Your Pleasure

When I say “mind-blowing sex”, what images come to mind for you? For most women, there’s an immediate image that pops in our heads that we’ve been fed through the media about what incredible sex should look like. This image in our minds forms how we think it looks, and how it feels, to be turned on and pleasured. What if I told you that this image of mind-blowing sex is actually keeping you from having that kind of sex that you’re picturing? In this episode, I talk about these sex standards, and how to let go of them so that you can create your own image of pleasurable sex, and you can start having the sex of your dreams. 

Topics in this episode

  • Is there a right way to have sex?
  • How this affects the way we’re thinking about our sexual partners
  • The standards you’re holding yourself against and how you’re measuring the success of your sex
  • Confirmation bias - the brain believes something, and it’s going to work to find...
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Ep. 81: Squeezing Sex into a Busy Life

Today’s topic may seem similar to things we’ve talked about in previous episodes, but I really wanted to simply talk about flipping the narrative about how we look at pleasure in general. So many of my clients and podcast listeners come to me to figure out how to make time in their life for pleasure and how they can squeeze in their sex life into their day. But what if instead of trying to fit it into our lives, we made sex and pleasure the goal to begin with?

Topics in this episode

  • The socialization of hustle culture
  • The expectation and glorification of doing it all
  • Why we feel compelled to take on extra burdens and tasks
  • The cost of doing it all, and how that impacts our pleasure
  • Sex and pleasure aren’t things to wait for

It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope this episode has given you food for thought about what it would look like for you to really flip the narrative and focus on pleasure, and letting that be the focus that...

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Ep. 80: Creating Momentum

I talk to a lot of women every week, and one of the main things I hear is the idea that they don’t know where to get started. When you think about taking on your sex life and creating the result of having a pleasurable sex life, it can totally feel overwhelming. This feeling of overwhelm causes our brains to shut down, and we don’t even know where or how to get started. In this episode, I share with you the tools to break down this huge undertaking and walk you through step-by-step with specific examples of how you can create momentum and become a turned-on woman. 

Topics in this episode

  • The indicators that your sex life may not be creating the result of you being a turned-on woman
  • What causes us to shut down
  • Pause and examine the elements
  • Have a vision and know what you’re going towards
  • Understanding that pleasure is possible for you
  • Previous episode, 6 Skills Needed for Better Sex: https://daniellesavory.com/77-6-skills-needed-for-better-sex/
  • The...
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