It's My Pleasure Podcast

Last week I did a masterclass called “3 Simple Steps to Mindblowing Sex”. The reason I wanted to do this is that there’s a lot of information, and definitely misinformation, out there, and it can be confusing to even know where to begin when it comes to having better sex. These are the three foundational steps. If you’re not having the kind of sex you’d like to be having, it all comes down to one of these three steps. You’re either not doing one of these things, you’re not doing one of these things enough, or you’re not doing one of these three things correctly. 

I also get to share with you something I’ve been working on for months! It’s a group coaching experience, called Better Sex in 90 Days. This is the most comprehensive, accessible program, that you could ever get to help you better your sex life. This takes the topics that I cover in the podcast, and gives you practical and workable ways to get the better sex...

Despite all of the things happening in the world, there is still pleasure and the ability to listen in and learn how to get more pleasure. Obviously, we are in unique times in the world. So I really want to take this time to talk about how and what can we do to bring pleasure into our life if sex is off the table. Just because sex isn’t an option, we have to make sure that we aren’t disconnecting from ourselves and our sexuality. In this episode, I share the importance of redefining sex and foreplay, what it means to self-pleasure, and other ways to play and prioritize pleasure.

It is a crazy time in our world right now, and I thought it was really important for me to get on and do this podcast. I think it is so easy for our brains to put sex on the back burner, especially when we’re experiencing something as life-altering as a pandemic. It is so important for us to remember in times like these is that pain is inevitable, suffering is optional, is that pleasure is essential. In this episode, I share with you how to break out of the stress cycle and how to do so, how to respond when our brain is freaking out, and noticing our thoughts in order to change them to a thought that will serve us. The skills we build in this time will continue to train our brain for hard times to come, in regards to the pandemic, and after, which is why this is so important. 

Be sure to go to http://daniellesavory.com/ and sign up for my newsletter. I’ve been sending out some helpful resources during this time, and you don’t want to miss...

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with me? Have you listened to the podcast and thought about the kind of transformation you could experience if you hired a sex coach? In this episode, I bring on one of my clients, Lindsay Dotzlaf, to discuss her experience of working with me, and the changes she’s gone through since hiring me to work with. I have many clients who come to me even when they are happy with their sex life, and this applied to Lindsay as well. She was having ok sex, but after hearing me talk, she knew it could be better. In our conversation, she shares the observations she was able to make about her sex life, the changes she implemented, and how her life has improved overall now that she is a more pleasured woman. 

Topics in this episode:

• What compelled Lindsay to reach out for coaching
• Sex was an item on the to-do list and breaking out of that mindset
• Taking away time from your business to work on something that was fine to begin with
• ...

How easy would it be if we could all get a manual that showed us how to have great sex every time? This is essentially what Cosmo magazine has been doing since the start! I get asked my top tips and tricks for how to have better sex all the time. My response to these questions is that each one of us is wired very differently for pleasure. If I could give you a better sex life, I would! The main reason we feel pleasure is due to the wiring in our brains, and creating the structures that are conducive to pleasure, and being curious will lead to the results and mindblowing sex you want. 

Make sure that you get on my mailing list because I have a fabulous free training coming up. You can email me directly, [email protected]. Or you can sign up on my new website, http://daniellesavory.com/

Topics in this episode

• It’s crucial that you do your own exploration and discovery so that you can find your own hot spots. 
• The wiring in our brains can be changed...

Many of my current and potential clients come to me because something is wrong with their sex life and they aren’t having the mindblowing sex life they desire, and they think that if this one thing changes, everything will be better. I’m here to tell you that it’s never just one thing. It’s all of you. Accessing pleasure requires a whole system, and you need as many systems as possible turned on towards pleasure. In this episode, I share with you the different categories of areas that can be turned on toward pleasure, and how to check in with each category in order to access the mindblowing sex you seek. 

I also wanted to let you know that I have been working on a new website and a new free training! In order to get all the details, be sure to sign up for my mailing list for this training, as well as my other regular fun and sexy emails. To be added to the list, email me at [email protected] and I can add you, or go to my website, ...

When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us away from pleasure, specifically, thoughts about our partners. This is something that I hear all the time from women is that there is something that their partner is doing, or not doing, that is keeping them from finding their partner desireable. I want to share with you that it’s not actually about your partner, and what they’re doing, or not doing. It’s your thoughts about these things that shape how you feel about them. In this episode, I share how to shift your thoughts so that you can get back to sexual pleasure. 

Topics in this episode:

• The kinds of things your partner does that can get in the way of your pleasure
• Your partner is just being themselves, and you have thoughts about it. And then these thoughts create an emotional response.
• Making the decision...

Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last three years, after pivoting from her law career, she has grown her life coaching business to 7-figures. She hosts one of the top-rated self-help podcasts called UnF*ck Your Brain, https://unfuckyourbrain.com/podcasts/, which has been downloaded over 5 million times. She’s truly a fun and witty human that I enjoy talking to so much. 

In this episode, we discuss how to help feminist women create more confidence, of which sex is a huge part, especially in this day and age. We also talk about what has culturally influenced our views of sex and ultimately has created so many blocks to our pleasure. We share what it means to feel sexy so matter what, and how thought-work is key to better sex and so much more. 

Topics in this episode

• Women are taught that their...

This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a feeling based on what we are thinking and that it is through practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. 

Empowerment, on the other hand, is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. When we’re empowered, we’re using the self-confidence we posses, and we direct the way we want our lives to go. In this episode, I share the steps to becoming empowered, how to think and feel as your future self in order to become her, and why sexual empowerment is crucial to becoming a fully empowered woman. 

Topics in this episode

• Healing is the first step in becoming sexually empowered
• Be now who you needed then and learn how to love yourself
• Take...

I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered. In order to access confidence, we must understand and be aware of our thoughts, and hold space for the feelings that we experience. It is through a self-compassion practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. In this episode, I share the process of how to create the thoughts that are necessary to be a confident woman. 

Topics in this episode

• We aren’t born confident
• The opposite of confidence is doubt
• We don’t need evidence ahead of time that we can do the thing we want to do 
• Self-compassion requires:
• Mindfulness of what is going on with our emotions
• Acknowledgment that we are human 
• Kindness
• As you believe in yourself, other people, and their thoughts about you, don’t have to mean...