It's My Pleasure Podcast

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of challenges, especially when it comes to our sex lives, it can feel like we are on an island all alone. 

In this episode, I discuss loneliness, it’s impact on our pleasure, and how we can peel back from the “otherness” so that we can connect with ourselves and create the result of being a pleasured woman. 

Topics In This Episode:

• How sex being “taboo” to talk about can make our isolation more magnified
• Assumptions of what “normal” looks like
• How we “other” ourselves, and how that “otherness” keeps us from our result
• The curse of the lone unicorn
• Clean pain versus dirty pain

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Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say mean things to ourselves. And this certainly is not an environment where pleasure can enter. I am a recovering perfectionist, and despite all the work I have done in this area of my life, it is still there. The key is to be able to identify those thoughts and create awareness so that we can love ourselves through it. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look at identifying those thoughts, the different areas of our lives where it can disrupt our pleasure, and what we can do about it.

Topics In This Episode

• Perfection is subjective
• What would perfect even look like? Is it even realistic?
• When perfectionism keeps you from setting goals
• The physical impact that damaging self-talk can have on you
• Holding on to this idea of perfect does not serve you
• Creating a container for...

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leigha had already known that there were beliefs from her upbringing holding her back in her sexuality. But having done a lot of work around healing her past already there was still this sense of, ‘I guess this is as good as it gets’. Leigha had been following me on social media and listening to the podcast for a while. She knew she had yet to create the sex life of her dreams and was beginning to question if what she wanted was possible when it came to her sexuality and relationship with her partner. There was a lot of fear of even trying this work, afraid of what it might mean about her relationship and her sexual identity. She is a life coach and had invested time in upleveling her life in other ways, and believed in the power of coaching and was hoping to create growth...

 When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for their own preference, or that of their partners, and they think that this means something about who they are as a person. In this episode, I introduce the importance of exploring our motivations behind wanting to have sex, separating any meaning from the frequency of sex sessions, and yes, I even give you a number. 

The next cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program is starting soon! If you are someone who is unhappy with the frequency of your sex life and you are looking to make a change, I invite you to join us in the group program. This is just one of the...

So you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while now, and you want to take this work to the next level and it’s time to bring your partner into the conversation. Talking about pleasure and your sex life can be taboo and a bit of a minefield when bringing this up with your partner. Sex has a way of making us feel vulnerable in a way that nothing else can. 

In this episode, I share with you how to bring this up with your partner, whether you are the one who wants to take this work to the next level, or, if you are wanting your partner to engage in this work. I talk about creating a safe space for both of you, conversation starters, and what a successful outcome looks like. 

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What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about today! She is a dear friend of mine and a marriage coach, who helps high-achieving women have five-star marriages. In our conversation today, we talk about just how crucial communication is for a marriage and the sex within that relationship. 

Maggie breaks down soul-centered communication, how to identify when you or your partner are in the stress cycle, and really how to prepare and have productive conversations with your partner around sex. I really enjoyed this conversation with Maggie and know that this will be so helpful for you when it comes to pursuing your pleasure. 

Topics In This Episode

• How you can make change in your marriage/partnership when only YOU are doing the work
• What is SOUL-Centered Communication?
• How to use this powerful tool right now to have...

On this podcast we usually talk about what we can do with our brains in order to tap into our pleasure, but I’m also interested in sharing with you other ways we can accentuate our bodies to experience greater pleasure. What if you could make some changes to your diet and it would allow you to have more pleasure and better sex? This is the exact thing that I talk about with my guest on this episode, Christine DeLozier. She is an acupuncturist and holistic nutritional counselor, and she recently wrote a book on the research she has done to answer the question about the effects of diet on our sexual health. She talks about some of the physiological indicators for better sex, the truth about aphrodisiacs, and even shares her date night menu if you’re looking to have better sex tonight. 

Topics In This Episode

• Looking at the root of the problem, not just the symptoms
• Evaluating a good sexual experience psychologically versus physiologically
• The 3 key physiological...

When you have the thought, “All he wants is sex from me, so I should want to have sex with him,” how does that feel in your body? Does that allow you to feel pleasure and lit up and turned on? Absolutely not! So many women come to me with this belief that all their partners want is sex, or that there’s a problem with them because they don’t have the same level of desire as their partner. They then assign meaning to it which creates negative emotions and feelings, none of which create space for pleasure.

The belief that our partners want to have sex with us is a totally neutral situation. However, so often we assign meaning to this that only allows for guilt and shame, which do not allow for pleasure. In this episode, let’s look at these thoughts about our partner’s desire and explore how we can shift away from obligation and frustration to a place of excitement and desire, for you.

This is the exact process we work through in Better Sex in...

How about a quickie?? In this short episode, I wanted to get right down to it and share 5 really quick things you can do to activate your sex life. In this podcast, I like to focus on helping you really build your mind-body connection and teach you how to use your brain to understand your mindset and the beliefs you have. We also take a look at how to create new thoughts that allow for you to feel more connected to yourself and your partner. However, in this episode, I really want to share 5 behaviors and action steps you can take to really start to tap into your pleasure today and feel more pleasure.

Topics In This Episode:

• The quickest way for you to access pleasure
• Scheduling sex isn’t boring!
• How to build anticipation.
• Foreplay begins way before the bedroom
• Thinking about our partners as our lovers, not just our roommates
• Building desire and eagerness for our partners
• The relationship between sex and the stress cycle, and how to break it

I hear from clients and women all the time that they are unhappy with their sex lives, but they are afraid to do this work because of what they may find out about themselves, and how it could possibly negatively affect other areas of their lives. This was also true for my client Whitney, who has come on the podcast this week to share with you the powerful transformation she experienced through facing her fears and really setting her relationship with herself as a priority in a whole new way. In our conversation, she shares the total empowerment she now gets to feel on a daily basis, in the bedroom and in all aspects of her life, as a result of learning the tools that I share in the Better Sex in 90 Days program. 

Topics In This Episode

• Approaching the shame around sex and overcoming it
• Orgasms are not the same as pleasure
• When we are holding ourselves back from exploring
• The power in getting support. You don’t have to go it alone!
• Untangling the codependence...