It's My Pleasure Podcast

Brig Johnson is a fellow life coaching colleague and friend of mine. She is an amazing representation of a woman who fully celebrates her body, and I wanted to have her on the show today to share about her recent journey of doing a boudoir photoshoot in honor of her 55th birthday. Brig is such an inspiration, and I am excited to have her in my world because I feel like I have permission to shine brighter when I’m with her because of the way that she shines. In our conversation, she shares her journey of deciding to pursue a boudoir photo shoot, the mental preparation she did, and how she celebrates herself and her body every day. 

Brig is on a mission to help high-achieving Black females become un-fuckwithable. Her unique approach combines her knowledge as an advanced practice healthcare provider and her skill as a life coach, and her direct style helps clients see themselves with clarity and compassion so that they reach the results they desire. If Brig sounds like she...

When we start to do this work, it starts with little tweaks that we do to think differently, to have a different perspective, and to unlearn our behaviors. But really, when you look at the bigger picture, what you’re doing is changing your personality. Who we are and how we show up in the world is a collection of different things: things we’ve learned, the thoughts we have, the beliefs that we have, which dictates how we feel emotionally in our body. And when we start to challenge how we feel in our bodies and make shifts in our thoughts and beliefs, it changes who we are and how we show up. In this episode I really dive into the emotion of shame, especially around self-pleasure, and how we can notice our thoughts, and begin to shift them so that we can become the self-pleasured women we want to be. 

Topics in this episode: 

• How addicted we get to our personality
• Why is this so hard, even when I know this isn’t serving me?
• Emotion showing up in our...

For today’s topic, I wanted to talk about the idea of pleasure. It came to mind when I was working with my group program, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I was recently asked what I meant when I said pleasure, and how the women in that program know if they are experiencing pleasure or not. We’re told what pleasure should feel like or what pleasure looks like, and we don’t often think about what it means to actually feel like. In this episode, I share with you how to identify what it is that you find pleasurable, and how you can apply that to your sex life and become the sexual woman you seek to be. 

Topics in this episode

• Defining pleasure and sexual pleasure
• Let yourself be curious
• Pleasure is made up of physical touch and the filter with which we see it
• Context matters
• Pleasure is subjective
• Finding what it takes to feel sexual pleasure

 It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this information with you and I hope it allows you to find more pleasure...

I want to start by discussing the current events that are taking place in response to Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd, and the thousands of other Black lives that have been unjustly taken. It has been very clear to me why this movement of Black Lives Matter is so important. With what is going on right now, I want to start by saying to my Black friends, listeners, and colleagues; I love you. I see you. And I fully stand with you, today and every day. 

Being a white woman in this country and really listening to the Black voices close to me, in my local community and beyond has been particularly important recently. I am learning and unpacking, and I want to continue to learn and be a part of the conversation and take action that I can take. 

In this episode, I share with you a Q&A, something I’ve never done before. The topics I cover in this episode are how to feel pleasure when there is so much overwhelm and deep hurt, how to push through...

Today I wanted to share five practical things you can practice to have better sex. If you want to get better at anything, it requires practice, and the same thing applies to sex. And it’s important that we practice these things outside of sex so that it becomes more of a default in the moment, and you can really feel and enjoy the pleasure of having sex. Carve out time in your every day life to really be intentional and practice these five things, and you’ll be able to feel more pleasured and have better sex. 

Topics in this episode

• The 5 things to practice for better sex:
  • Feeling pleasure
  • Thinking about sex
  • Connecting with your lady parts
  • Focusing
  • The muscles you are going to use during sex
• Finding moments of pleasure throughout the day
• Find time to think about your partner more, and to be eager to see them and spend time with them
• Pay attention to the person he is and the things he is doing, rather than the things he isn’t doing
• Notice what it feels...

We are going to talk today about this idea of not being sexual, and what that even means. Women often say to me, “I’m just not that sexual”, and it seems like an innocent thing, but I want to unpack why this sneaky thought is negatively affecting your ability to become more sexual. We’re all here because we want to have better sex, and believing you aren’t sexual is holding you back from the sex you deserve. I’m also going to share a simple technique you can use to shift away from this thought and to be able to identify as a more sexual person. 

Topics in this episode

• The difference between being asexual versus not feeling very sexual
• When you think “I’m not sexual enough” it’s going to affect your ability to access pleasure
• The roadblocks in starting from a place of “not enough”-ness
• When we identify ourselves in a certain way, it feels like it’s set in stone and impossible to change, but...

In this episode I share with you another interview with my beloved clients, Jamee. I just love hearing her paint the picture of what it looks like to be a vibrant woman who’s alive in her body. She shares with you just how she went from rejecting her body, for a number of reasons, to now being able to relish in the pleasure of it. She wanted to make choices from a place of love, and now she can because she’s in a deep love affair with herself. She also talks about the new approach she has to sex, now that she has recognized that she truly enjoys it and wants it for herself. By learning how to tap into that pleasure, she’s now able to apply it to other areas of her life, and she talks about the transformation she’s seen because of it. 

For any of you that are ready to do this work, my group program, Better Sex in 90 Days, is open right now. I’m so excited to take you through this transformational journey because I know what it’s like on the...

I interviewed one of my clients, Deise, and in this interview, you’re going to hear exactly what doing this work looks like from the inside. In our conversation, she is open and honest about her experience starting from the first time we got on the phone, what motivated her to start this journey, the fear about moving through the good girl identity she grew up with, to now being completely transformed and on the other side. It can be hard to picture the before and after of what it means to be an empowered woman, and in this episode, Deise does such a beautiful job painting that picture for you. 

If you’re ready for this level of growth, I encourage you to apply for the new group program I have created, Better Sex in 90 Days. It’s the most comprehensive coaching program available to women to learn the exact process that I take women through, like you and like Deise, to have better sex, and to feel empowered and sexually alive. 

Topics in this episode

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We are on part 3 of our series based on a recent masterclass I did called 3 Steps to Mindblowing Sex. These steps are essential for being able to uplevel your sex life, no matter where you’re starting at. Two episodes back we covered Step 1, have sex. We talked about why so many of us aren’t having sex and how to recommit to that action so that you can start showing up for the right reasons. In Step 2, Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body, we covered the disconnect between the mind and the body, and how to cultivate a connection to be able to access that pleasure. 

To listen to Step 1, go here: https://daniellesavory.com/ep-59-first-step-to-mind-blowing-sex/

To listen to Step 2, go here: https://daniellesavory.com/ep-60-second-step-to-mind-blowing-sex/

Step 3 - Turning On the Ons, and Turning Off the Offs 

• This step is really about getting into the mindset work and tweaking our thoughts one at a time to create more pleasure in the body 
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I know that this episode is coming out earlier than expected, but I wanted to go ahead and record and release all 3 parts of the series all in a row. I know that right now a lot of you are at home, and I want to help you have better sex in your quarantine with your partners. This series is based on a masterclass I did that was called, How to Have Mindblowing Sex. In the last episode, I went over Step 1, have sex. To hear that episode, please go here: https://daniellesavory.com/ep-59-first-step-to-mind-blowing-sex/. This series is for anyone, no matter where you’re at, and following these 3 steps will help you have the better sex that you deserve. 

I’m so excited to share with you that I have been working on something that I can now share with you. I am starting group coaching sessions, called Better Sex in 90 Days. All of the steps that I’m talking about here, these are the foundational pieces that you can take and apply right now. If you want expert...